I feel like a lunatic because my brother’s girlfriend handed me her TikTok login last week to spy on him, and now I’m spending hours refreshing his reposts. She thinks he’s emotionally cheating with a girl from school, so she basically deputized me as her undercover agent. At first I thought I was just being helpful, but now my stomach drops every time he reposts a sad quote or some girl’s clip. I haven’t touched my own homework in days and I feel dirty. How do I get out of this mess without blowing up their relationship?

Hand over your detective badge and step away from the phone: you’re an unpaid intern in a toxic spy movie, and it’s completely hijacking your brain. Here’s the reality: she didn’t ask for your help, she handed you her anxiety grenade because her own hands were getting tired. Reading tea leaves in someone’s TikTok repost tab is an endless rabbit hole. A 7-second clip with a sad audio doesn’t prove emotional infidelity, but obsessing over it proves that their relationship has zero trust left—and that is strictly their problem to solve, not yours. Log out right this second. Clear the cache. Then send her one clear text: “I love you both, but tracking his account is totally messing with my head, so I’ve logged out. You need to talk to him directly.” No apologies, no debates. Step out of the surveillance van and reclaim your screentime. Let them handle their own soap opera while you get back to living your actual life.