I feel terrible even typing this, but my partner has been drowning my office in crazy expensive gifts and fifty texts an hour, calling it "pure support" for my first job. Today I found out they actually made a fake recruiter profile on Tinder to match with my new coworkers and fish for dirt on anyone who might be a "threat." I'm so mortified. Am I crazy for feeling completely suffocated?

Take a breath: No, you are not crazy, and you definitely don't need to apologize for feeling like you're under surveillance by your own partner. What’s happening here isn't intense romance or cute over-involvement. It’s control wrapped in luxury ribbon. Flooding your desk with gifts establishes a territorial flag at your new workplace, while the endless check-ins sabotage your focus. But catfish-stalking your team on Tinder disguised as a headhunter? That crosses straight from insecurity into full-blown corporate sabotage. That's not devotion; that’s an undercover operation to isolate you. You do not owe someone understanding when they actively jeopardize your livelihood. Draw an immediate, uncompromising line. Say: "Creating fake accounts to spy on the people I work with is a massive violation of my trust and my job, and I will not tolerate it." Your first job should be about building your future—not managing a partner's private security detail.