I just spent three hours wiping every single saved post and follow from my finsta because my mom almost saw a notification, and I'm still shaking. I'm so sorry if this sounds completely stupid, but I keep having crushes on both girls and guys and it makes me feel like a total fraud. If I'm too terrified to even keep an anonymous meme page, does that mean I'm just making this whole identity up?

First step: put the phone facedown, drop your shoulders, and breathe. You are not a fraud; you are a teenager surviving under digital surveillance. Scrubbing your finsta isn’t proof that you’re 'faking' your feelings. It’s basic self-preservation. When you live in a house where your identity could trigger a theological trial in the kitchen, staying safe is smart, not cowardly. And about the imposter panic: being into more than one gender isn't a neat 50/50 split that comes with a membership card. It messy, it shifts, and it doesn't need to be publicly defended to be real. For now, stop treating your phone like a crime scene. Use a private browser tab if you want to explore queer spaces, or log out completely so linked accounts can’t betray you. When the spiral starts again, tell yourself: 'I don’t owe anyone a finished label while I'm still living under someone else's roof.' Your attraction is real even if nobody on Earth knows about it yet. You get to figure this out on your own clock.