I might cancel this weekend because what if he literally laughs in my face? We met on Discord, he lives three subway stops away and has been with dozens of people, while I just got out of this four-year, super sheltered bubble. I crave being touched—kissing, skin, hands everywhere—but definitely no actual penetration yet. Can you even tell a grown guy that without sounding like a twelve-year-old at camp?

Deep breath: craving intense touch without the whole gymnastics routine doesn’t make you childish, it makes you someone with clear tastebuds. Pop culture loves pretending that "real adults" only order the five-course sexual feast, but honestly, great appetizers are half the art. Sex isn't an escalator where stepping on the bottom stair means you're legally obligated to ride it all the way to the top floor. And if your Discord date is truly as experienced as he sounds, he should already know that slow, heated teasing with clothes half-on can be way hotter than rushed penetration anyway. Don’t apologize for the pacing—just serve it as an enticing game plan before things get too steamy on the sofa: "I really want your hands on me tonight, but pants stay on and we keep it slow." A guy who knows what he’s doing will find that intriguing as hell. And if he groans or acts like you handed him a chore, perfect: you just dodged someone who is definitely mediocre in bed, without having to find out the hard way.