Dr Gnoxx

Nadia asks · 08 Oct 2026

I want to ask the guy from my history class to be exclusive, but I'm dying of shame because I'm 99% sure he noticed my discharge on his sheets last Friday. How do I text him without feeling disgusting?

Dr Gnoxx answers

First of all, unclench your jaw: bodies are moist, living biology, not dry plastic mannequins, and discharge is literally your vagina's built-in self-cleaning cycle. Most teenage boys either don't register it at all or assume that moisture simply equals arousal. If your discharge has suddenly changed color, smells off, or itches, don't spiral—it's usually just a harmless yeast infection or mild bacterial vaginosis, which an OB-GYN or quick pharmacy trip can wipe out in two days. But it is definitely not a crime scene you need to apologize for. Don't mix up your health with your relationship standards. You don't have to earn the right to exclusivity by pretending you don't have human anatomy. Keep your cool and text him about what actually matters: "Hey, had fun Friday. I'm not really into casual hookups with multiple people right now—are you on the same page?" If he can handle being in your pants, he can handle human biology. Own your space.
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