My boyfriend bought a studio mic for Discord calls, and now video sex feels like an audio surveillance test 💀 He literally monitors my breathing and asks 'did you cum yet?' every three minutes. I freeze up, fake it just to end the call, and now I genuinely dread opening the app. How do I get him to stop treating my orgasm like a Twitch speedrun?

First things first: your clitoris is not an e-sports tournament with a live progress bar. Long-distance intimacy is already tricky enough without turning it into a high-fidelity interrogation. Your guy probably thinks he's being attentive and validating his own bedroom skills through a Shure SM7B, but hyper-monitoring does the exact opposite of getting someone off—it sends your brain straight into panic mode. Nobody climaxes while feeling like they’re taking an oral exam. Take the pressure off the table before either of you takes your pants off. Hit him with: "I love messing around with you, but the breathing checks and asking if I came totally kill the vibe. Let’s make a rule: zero orgasm questions tonight, we just fool around for fun." If you take away the performance review, your body can actually relax again. Sex should be a playground, not a Discord stream with KPI targets.