My ex spent our entire relationship humiliating me whenever I sweated through a shirt from anxiety. Yesterday I listened to his new podcast and heard him crying about his own secret clinical hyperhidrosis. Why do people weaponize the exact thing they’re hiding?

It is classic, textbook projection: when someone cannot tolerate a flaw in themselves, they hunt for it in others so they can play the critic instead of the suspect. By obsessing over your sweat, he made sure all the scrutiny stayed miles away from his own body. His cruelty wasn't an accurate critique of your body; it was a panic-driven smokescreen for his own crippling shame. The irony is that your anxiety sweating around him was probably just your nervous system screaming that you weren't safe with someone so hypercritical. Now you know the secret: none of it was ever about your shirts. Delete his podcast from your feed and let your body exist in peace. You spent months hiding a completely normal physical reaction while he was running from himself.