Zara asks · 07 Oct 2026
People in my class group chat keep grilling me on Snapchat about whether I'm pan, bi, or just 'confused' because I mentioned liking people for their vibe rather than their gender. I just started my weekend internship and honestly have zero interest in picking a rigid label just to satisfy their checklist. Why is everyone so obsessed with filing me into a box?
Dr Gnoxx answers
Short answer: Because people love filing cabinets, but humans aren't tax returns.
Here’s the thing about labels: they’re supposed to be tools to help you feel understood, not handcuffs someone else slaps on your wrists. Sometimes classmates push for hard categories because ambiguity makes *them* uncomfortable—they want an easy sticker so their own brain can feel organized. That's entirely their homework, not yours. Fluidity isn't an incomplete loading screen; it's a completely legit way to exist.
The next time someone demands your definitive queer taxonomy on Snapchat, hit them with a cool: "I’m interested in actual people, not filing an inventory report. I'll let you know if I ever care to categorize it."
Rock your internship, vibe with whoever catches your eye, and let them waste their data debating your aura.
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