We’re on holiday and my best friend just casually dropped in our group chat that she secretly tracks her boyfriend’s live location and reads his DMs using his saved passwords—expecting us all to cheer her on. Am I crazy or is that completely unhinged?

Short and sweet: You’re totally sane, but your best friend’s idea of romance belongs in an FBI watchlist, not a summer holiday. Let’s be real: secretly logging into someone’s accounts isn’t cute detective work, it’s digital stalking wrapped in a vacation vibe. Demanding high-fives in the group chat is just her desperate attempt to make something deeply toxic feel normal. If nobody calls it out, silence sounds like approval—and right now, she’s treating boundaries like a buffet. You don’t need to start a full-blown beach war, but you also don’t have to play accomplice. Send a dry reality check straight into the chat: “Love you babe, but that’s terrifying, not iconic. Put his phone down and drink your cocktail.” Real friends don’t let friends mistake surveillance for love. Keep your hands off the cheerleading pom-poms.